Until I entered my nomadic life, I thought of “friendship” as a relationship that needs years to develop. To truly call each other friends, I thought, two people need a history together in which they share and celebrate and mourn the events in each other’s lives over many years. … So, I have learned how to compress time through introducing, early in conversation, intimate details of my life. … Once I’ve opened up the conversation with intimate details of my life, the usual superficialities of an initial conversation have been bypassed.
–Rita Golden Gelman, Tales of a Female Nomad, pp 246